And so we come to the third Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading for Sharon. Her story expands as light is shed upon all the connecting areas of her current path and situation. Sharon certainly has embarked on an exciting journey, but in this Reading Sharon wants to focus on relationships, not in a generic sense as in the last reading, but this time focused in a very certain direction.
Sharon sent the questions for her Readings to me by private message. Up until now, I have supplied the exact question, but for this reading, it was a lot more personal. Therefore, I have stripped the question down to the bare bones. What I will tell you is that she told me there was someone in the background, someone she is drawn towards, and maybe connected to the secret I mentioned in the previous reading. She agrees she is not in a rush to get involved with anyone right now, but she does feels a strong connection between them.
Sharon – So now I’m wondering – what is his role in my life? The cards I pulled relating to this question are: the Ten of Pentacles, the Lovers, the Ace of Swords.
After all the action and fire of The Wands, we now come upon our very first Pentacle, and not only that, it is the Ten of Pentacles. The previous Wands Cards were in the low numbers, suggesting the beginnings of your new life and how it was still in the early stages. All of a sudden we find the extremely settled Ten of Pentacles. This suggests to me straight away that even though you may not have openly acknowledged, or admitted it to yourself, you believe that this ‘secret man’ could very well be the one that could make you happy in the long-term. He has been in and around your life for a long time and the relationship is already quite concrete. Roots are firmly established. With The Lovers sitting in central position, we could easily be looking at a karmic situation, especially with The Ten of Pentacles flanking it on the left side. You and this man go back a long way, maybe longer than you think. The Ten of Pentacles stands for long-standing situations, longevity and legacy, with roots that often go back many generations or lifetimes.
The Lovers also suggest to me that you enjoy a wonderful level of communication with this man. You can speak freely, you share so much, and have lots in common. You can be yourself with this man and he too with you. There is certainly a bond here and more than just casual. The Ace of Swords often represents a meeting of minds, the double-edged Sword. Two minds are better than one, and even better still are two independent minds that can communicate in a balanced harmonious manner. The two sides are also reflected in The Lovers who perfectly complement each other. A decision will have to be made about this relationship at some stage, but there is no immediate rush. You may feel that The Ace of Swords is encouraging you to act, but all it wants you to do is clear your mind of the past, so that you can make sense of it all. You need to cut any ties that bind you to old relationship patterns and you will use the Ace of Swords to do so. You feel this to be a real relationship with a spiritual connection. You feel blessed for the first time.
Taking all this in at first glance, my initial response to the Ace of Swords is the sudden realisation of your true feelings for this person. The space has been cleared in your life and you can look at things and people from a new perspective. Ping, a light has gone on in your brain and all is crystal clear. The Ace of Swords also frees you to openly communicate your feelings about this man to others. It is safe to talk about him. You don’t have to keep it to yourself anymore, yet I feel you worry about your ex-husband finding out.
These are very positive cards in relation to the prognosis of this potential relationship. However, you are still at the beginning of your new adventure, and this relationship, although spiritually cemented, is still in an abstract sense, symbolised by the presence of Aces. The Ten of Pentacles reassures you that it is safe to view it at a distance, something that will come about in the long-run. It will come to complete manifestation. It is what both of you ultimately desire, as you have been slowly but surely moving towards each other over the years. Your destination is the same even though you took different routes. Your paths crossed several times as you journeyed. These encounters were flags that were designed to draw your attention to each other. The Wheel of Fortune and The Lovers demonstrate this. The Aces too, act as flags or signals. At long last you are both aware, several flags later.
The depth of feeling for each other has survived this long so don’ t worry about it disappearing all of a sudden. Where the Pentacles are concerned, they do not rush into anything. They take their time with everything they value by allowing it to mature, to organically evolve. They can, and will, wait without feeling stressed about the possibility of missing out on something. The Empress on the top row symbolises this maturity and reassures you that much growth is happening in this area, but that you must still put yourself first. Any troubles encountered in The Moon were all part of the process, and The Wheel turned just as it was meant to, as directed by you. A lesson has been learned along the way. You must be aware of what the lesson was before you can appreciate what you have learned. Do you now understand how your life came to be? You were not being true to yourself and allowed situations to come about that did not reflect your exact needs or desires.
I wonder why your relationship with this ‘secret man’ ran the way it did? You have known each other a long time; have been friends, even lovers. You seemed to have bumped into each other over the years in a synchronistic manner. You even told your friends you knew you would meet him again only two weeks before you were married. The feelings you had for this man have been there all along. His feelings were not in question either. What was it that got in the way of you two actually getting together? Why were you thinking about him when you were due to marry another? Why indeed were you marrying another? He was always there in the background and I can sense that you harbored deep regrets about this after marrying. There may have been an issue with your relationship that resulted in you marrying the wrong man. I don’t think this comes directly from either of you, but it may have been an external influence. Were there family involved who would not have deemed the relationship suitable? The Ten of Pentacles makes me wonder about family values and tradition. It also speaks of a family of status and affluence. Did being a single mom interfere with this relationship developing? He may also have been busy building his career, or possibly not free to be with you. I do think that something stood in the way that resulted in star-crossed lovers. However, the Fates are now intervening.
I sense this man is aware of your need for independence, and even promotes it. He has kept a connection with you for much time and has even watched you walk away and marry another. He has been patient, as all Pentacles are. He sees value in you and enjoys watching your new-found freedom. He was instrumental in you leaving your unhappy marriage by offering his support of your cause. He will admire your ambition and desire to kick-start your career, and will offer further support in any way he can. As a couple you could also work well together, start a business even. Loyal friendship. The Lovers suggest you are sexually compatible and are attracted to each other on all levels. A very mature relationship is developing so there is no need to rush. The Ten of Pentacles will ask you to stabilise, establish and solidify your own situation before entering another relationship. Career and creating a secure home front is vitally important right now. You have had a lot of change in recent times and the Ten of Pentacles will act to ground you by keeping you focused on the task at hand. The rush and drama is over for now. You must settle in to your new environment and build on your financial security. This will be done by finding the right job or gaining extra qualifications. Long-standing institutions are very favorable for you right now. The ‘secret man’ does not appear to be going anywhere so you can relax. One thing to note is the lack of Cups related to this question. This does not mean there is no potential for love and romance but that maybe now is not the right time. All that end of things will come in due course. You do not need to be distracted from your main path at present.
When we lay out this reading, with the previous three as stacked rows above it, we can view the cards more objectively. The Wheel of Fortune, suggesting the hand of fate, unexpected surprises, chance encounters, all designed to bring you to the Ten of Pentacles, another 10 card. The universe may have been conspiring behind your back all this time. Positioned below it we have the Three of Cups, the freedom to socialise and have fun once more. The three Cups are raised not just to toast your new-found liberation from an unhappy marriage, but also for arriving at a point of personal freedom. You say your daughter has now entered adulthood, and that being a mother defined your life for so long, especially all the time spent as a single mom. You have done well, and so you shall be rewarded. Looking diagonally down the lines of Cards we have the Ace of Wands on one end, mirroring the Ace of Swords at the other end. Two positive signs of new beginnings and awakenings. Personal motivation drives you forward now in the Ace of Wands with the Ace of Swords permitting you to start thinking about yourself too, without having to feel guilty. There is a wonderful freshness being communicated. However, we still have The Moon to overcome. I am wondering about the home you shared with your ex-husband? Where has it gone to? Has it been sold or is it still going through a process? I still feel that there are some niggling worries. In the midst of all this new energy, do not let unfinished business slide or you may lose out. As much as you want to move forward, tie up any loose ends that remain from the previous cycle. Lay some ghosts to rest.
The Numerology Bit
This week your combined cards carry a numerical value of 8 (1+7=8). 8 is the number of positive strength, finance, infinity, success, finances and business. 8 in itself represents the symbol of infinity when turned on its side, the lemniscate. Energy in constant movement, life looping around in itself over and over, regeneration, rebirth, what goes around comes around. This anchors a strong link that may explain your feeling of being soul mates. A never-ending love, love past death, and that love will wait. Infinite opportunities to meet and connect. This may be where your synchronistic meetings have sprung from. If the time is not quite right for this relationship, there will be plenty of opportunities in the future.
In Tarot we look to the Major Arcana. Card 8 is Strength. This is not forced strength but one which is gentle but firm, loving but not needy. Strength has mastered the emotional battle fought in the Chariot and can approach any emotional turbulence in life, be it positive or negative, in a balanced manner. There is knowledge gained of the self and how you dealt with situations in the past. Strength brings a new maturity to the fore as you begin to forgive and be at peace.
We must also look at Card 17 in the Major Arcana, The Star. The Star beautifully complements Strength. The is where we arrive after a period of trauma or drama in our lives, but only if we have dealt with our issues in a positive and progressive manner. Moving on after pain, trauma or loss is not always easy, but when we find the Strength to pick ourselves up and put one foot in front of the other, The Star moves towards and above us to light the path ahead. The Star is the beacon in the distance that gives us hope when we are lost, lonely or scared. The Star will guide you away from the troubles and concerns of The Moon. It is the reward after delivering ourselves into the light once more. Because we have shown strength in the face of all that was sent our way, we can bathe in the beauty and glow of The Star as we recover our sense of self, or transformed identity. The Star soothes our troubled soul and mind, and allows healing to commence. It leads us to a place where we are free to be, without the pressure or demands of others. The Star helps us to find ourselves but also asks us to share our knowledge or gifts with others. We must reach out and help others too as we are not the only ones who have suffered. The Star is linked to Humanitarian issues.
Where this relationship is concerned, you are still trying to find your self and need much space in which to heal and grow. There is a wonderful calmness descending upon you and a growing understanding of your personality and needs. The Star is another Karmic Card, and set beside The Lovers, we feel a wonderful deep sense of understanding and respect. I strongly suspect karmic links between you and this ‘secret man’. Take your time, expand your lungs and breathe deeply. Taste the fresh air of freedom.
The total of Major Arcana Cards to date gives us a numerical value of 1 (3+7=10 – 1+0=1). This calculation is taken from Reading one, The Empress and The Wheel of Fortune. Reading Two, The Moon and this Reading, The Lovers. The Magician, card 1 in The Major Arcana brings power, knowledge and strong masculine energy. The Magician has done his research and work. He finds himself in a position where he can achieve anything he sets his mind to. As a person, he is dynamic, charismatic, highly intelligent or educated and has burning desire and ambition. He draws people too him and is known to be an influencer. My only bit of advice with this card turning up in your reading about this ‘secret man’ is that you do not put him on a pedestal. Do not put yourself in second place to him. You are every bit as important and brilliant as he is. You need to work towards your own goals regardless of what happens between you. Much powerful energy is in your hands right now so make the most of it. The Empress and Magician suggest a powerful couple and if they are in love, then wow!
We can also look at card 10 which is The Wheel of Fortune. 10 and 1 are closely linked. Whereas 1 is connected to beginnings and new cycles, 10 to me represents the transition stage as an old cycle ends at 9/10 and a new one begins. We are still affected by echos of the cycle just finished and may have some unfinished business to attend to, even though to all intents and purposes we are done with the old. Everything is up for grabs and so many new opportunities will present themselves. The Wheel of Fate and Karma will continue to throw synchronistic events your way with this ‘secret man’. An exciting time ahead. Stay positive or the Wheel will begin to slow down. Everything is in divine order within your universe.
End of Reading – Week 3
Sharon – Thank you once again for such a wise and enlightened reading and thank you for your guidance about my relationship with the ‘secret man’ – you validated my deepest feelings about this and helped me to overcome the little niggling doubt (which I did think related more to what happened with my ex and my baggage connected with that than to him.) You completely nailed the relationship with the ‘secret’ man – how we relate to each other, his support for me (the complete opposite of my ex), my feelings about it and even the ‘star-crossed lovers’ aspect. I am in a much better place now than I was when we tried to be together in the past – I had way too much baggage then and was being lead by ‘ego’ rather than ‘soul’, allowing insecurities and fears to colour the relationship and eventually to run away from it, and I think something similar was going on for him. Yet on a soul level we never stopped loving each other deeply and that is what ultimately drew us back together. This time around I am happy to take it slowly and move towards him once I have tied up the loose ends.
I have actually been having dreams about my ex husband, about him being in my house and messing the place up so even though I’ve felt like it was over for me on an emotional level, there is perhaps still a bit of baggage left over (as you pointed out the other week, the relationship died a long time ago for me, so I did most of the grieving when we were still living together). I wonder if it’s because the divorce is still going through? I’m waiting for the decree nisi which should be pronounced in a week or so, which means the whole divorce will be complete by the end of May. Perhaps when it’s all complete then maybe this will mean all the loose ends are indeed tied.
I do think that now I’m being true to myself and am allowing my real self to emerge – I keep seeing butterflies everywhere and this is how I feel, like I’m finally emerging from the cocoon. It’s a wonderful place to be and I feel very much like I’ve been given the chance to start afresh and create the life I really want and always knew I should lead. It does feel like everything that’s ever happened to me has lead me to this particular place on a spiritual and material level – it feels like all the paths I’ve ever taken are now converging into one beautiful road leading me towards the place I was always meant to be in.
The Final Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 4 will be posted on Thursday the 25th of August.