Looking For Love Spread

This Card Reading is excellent for getting to the heart of love and relationships.  It is ideal for anyone who desires to draw romance and love into their lives. I did not design this myself but found it on the internet some years ago and have used it successfully on many occasions. The Looking for Love Spread,  will expose areas where you may be unconsciously blocking a loving relationship from coming into your life.  It will offer both guidance on how to overcome and release these blocks, together with suggestions as to who might be a suitable partner and where you are most likely to meet him or her. To get the most out of this Reading it is wise to detach yourself or advise the Querant to detach them self as much as possible from the outcome.  Being honest with yourself and being open to other possibilities and potentials is important.

Looking For Love Spread

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Card 1                                                                                                              Card 5 

Base Card – Gives background information.

Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner?

Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1?

Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner?

Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me?

Card 5 –  Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?

Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?


9 replies »

  1. For card 4 I got the queen of rods reversed. I’m confused because I don’t believe the most suitable partner for me has all those negative qualities. How can I interpret this?


    • Hi Allison,

      Reversed cards can also carry the message of ‘absolutely not like me’. In doing so the Reversed Queen of Wands/Rods could be acting as a warning to stay well away from anyone who mirrors her reversed characteristics, especially if you have had a tendency to do so in the past. Many of us are drawn to unsuitable partners time and time again only to discover down the road that they are the exact opposite of what we need. So beware of anyone resembling the Reversed Queen of Wands regardless of whatever other wonderful traits he or she displays at the time for it doesn’t augur well. Sometimes it is more important for us to determine what is the deal breaker, what we can’t or won’t compromise on. The Reversed Queen of Wands could represent the deal breaker in your case.

      I wonder if this makes any sense for you?



  2. Hi Vivien, I draw the 9 of Wands as Where to find him, but what could it mean? It doesn’t look like a “where” card..

    What do you think?


    • Hi Helen,

      Thank you for your enquiry. I suppose the same could be said about any number of cards that turn up in any position. When we ask a question of the tarot, we hope for very specific responses and cards to fit their positional meaning. If you have drawn the three of cups in Where to Find him you would naturally think of meeting him at a social event (party, wedding, celebration, concert), an introduction from a friend, through a friend or even part of your existing circle of friends. It makes sense and fits nicely in place. The six of cups could suggest he is not far from home, or perhaps someone from your childhood or past. The eight of wands might suggest on holidays or while travelling abroad. The ten of pentacles could suggest you find him in a corporate environment, or at a monied/high status event or gathering. Finding a Court Card in this position can throw you too. However, The Queen of Cups might suggest an artistic or nurturing environment, the King of Swords could suggest a legal or professional environment.

      You have drawn the Nine of Wands in this position and unfortunately it does not immediately offer a definite suggestion. When this happens we must look to what is going on in the card to determine where in your life or future it may be suggesting. In the Nine of Wands we see a worn out fatigued man who looks like he has a lot of demands on him, commitments and responsibilities. He doesn’t look like he has much time for socialising or any interest in a relationship. His attention seems to be fully focused on maintaining, defending or protecting everything he has worked hard towards, his job perhaps. He may be struggling to keep on top of things and is inevitably stressed. However, this guy is not a quitter and takes his responsibilities very seriously. He may have a very important job or is running a demanding and competitive business with little outside help. Therefore, you might encounter this man in a variety of circumstances and places. He is bound to make an impression on you regardless of whether he has the time to speak to you or not. Do you know anyone or have you encountered anyone who might line up with this scenario? The Nine of Wands can represent someone who is involved in security or the military. It is unlikely with the Nine of Wands that he will make the first move and he may be quite resistant or closed. He builds a fortress around himself, but it is penetrable so if you find this guy, you may have to give him time to come around. Therefore it is unlikely you will meet him in a typical social environment where all are dressed up and out to impress each other. It will probably be a work environment, one of high stress and quite demanding.

      I hope this has helped.



  3. I drew The Moon in Position 4 for Most Suitable Partner. Does it mean that it’s not clear yet who it is? Or I’m confused? I can’t figure out how to read it. Also, for when I drew a court card – Queen of Pentacles? How do I read that for time? Love your site and all your descriptions. I think they are incredible.


    • Hi India,

      Thank you for you lovely comment about my site. Well The Moon is very deep emotionally so maybe the most suitable partner for you is someone who is in touch with their emotions. The Moon also represents the Sun Sign, Cancer – emotive, creative, intuitive, caring, nurturing. The Moon can be moody though so you want that tempered down with more practical aspects. Pentacles in the Northern Hemisphere represent Winter. They are also the most patient of the suits so we can see this Queen is prepared to wait for what she wants. She has set high standards and won’t pair up with anyone less. When could also suggest, when you are out and about in Nature, walking, walking the dog, hiking, even down at the local garden center. Think of activities the Queen of Pentacles may be involved in when she might meet someone. She also could be at college or signing up to evening classes, a course, or club.

      I hope this helps.

      xxx Vivien


  4. Hi! I love your site- thank you for all of this. I refer to all the time and learning so much. I did the “Looking for love spread” and it feels really positive..How ever, I am having some difficulty interpreting. For instance how do I interpret the Lovers Card for “Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?”

    Card 1: 6 of Wands, Card 2: 8 of Wands, Card 3: 10 of Cups, Card 4: 9 of Pentacles Card 5: Lovers, Card 6: 4 of Wands, Base card : 6 of Cups ..Drew additional, 3 of Pentacles, 10 of Pentacles, 3 of Pentacles and the Hierophant.

    Many thanks,



    • Hi Emily,

      Just had a quick look at this regarding The Lovers and wonder if you are attending an occasion such as a wedding, engagement party or the likes? The Lovers as where may be a place where you will find couples, lovers, events revolving around couples. You have other cards in the reading which might point to a wedding, family gathering or large special social occasion. The Ten of Cups and Ten of Pentacles brings in family events with the Pentacles spending lavishly on it. The Hierophant officiates over wedding ceremonies. The 4, 6 of Wands, 10 of Cups, Lovers and Hierophant are all linked to engagements, weddings, christenings etc with The 10 of Cups, 4 of Wands, Six of Cups and 10 of Pentacles all suggesting important family or community occasions. The 4, 8 of Wands are also vacation cards, travelling to somewhere special. In the 4, 6 of Wands, 9 and 10 of Pentacles we see people dressing up, making a big effort with their appearance because they are going to be on view somewhere. No expense is spared. I am looking at these cards in general and not exactly as per the spread placements. The Four of Wands and Six of Cups show great stability and harmony. Fitting in and belonging. Three of Pentacles suggests laying down the groundwork, foundations etc. Putting great effort into something you consider of worth. Potential for growth. Someone talented and intelligent.

      Some wild Speculations below taken at face value. Great cards and positive.
      Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner? Six of Wands – Do others put you on a pedestal or believe you are out of their league? The 9 of Pentacles shows a well to do, well dressed, successful and self-sufficient woman. She is very independent and can look after herself. With the Six of Wands she could appear out of reach.

      Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1? 8 of Wands – Take action yourself. Make a move and be proactive. Go out in search of it. The 6 of Wands may see you sitting pretty waiting for admirers to come to you. The 8 sees you heading out. Travel also.

      Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner? 10 of Cups- Get to know the people around you and in your community. Get involved in something. Be open and friendly. Here we have family set ups and gatherings. Enrol the help of your family. Ask them to make introductions for you with suitable suitors. With the 6 of Cups and 10 of Pentacles I wonder if there is someone from home or close to home, or connected to your family?

      Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me? 9 of Pentacles – Someone who is successful and financially secure. A mature person who can appreciate a quality relationship without smothering.

      Card 5 – Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner? Lovers – At very specific couples events. Allow maybe family members of the 10 of Cups set you up on a date. They know you better than you know yourself. Go to events where you will meet like minded people who are also looking to meet like minded people. Dating sites, dating agencies. Weddings.

      Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner? 4 of Wands – At a wedding, party, family gathering, work do or convention, on vacation. During the summer months. When you are feeling stable and secure in yourself. When you are looking your best. When you are with people you know.

      Base Card – 6 Cups – Another family/family home card. In a familiar location with people you know. Where you can be yourself. Travelling home. Someone from your past or home town. Very loving and tender energy. Looking for a companion as well as a lover. Feeling blessed.

      Had five minutes to do this so sorry for any typos and hope you can work out where I am coming from.

      xxx Vivien


  5. Hi Vivien,

    This is so helpful and amazing. THANK YOU!!!!!! I recently met a young man at a party through friends and finally not online and it felt great. I am much more in my element and more approachable in this fashion always. So far so good.. we will see. He’s a lot younger, but also truly wonderful and calls me his kindred spirit:)) I feel the same.



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