Looking For Love Spread

This Card Reading is excellent for getting to the heart of love and relationships.  It is ideal for anyone who desires to draw romance and love into their lives. I did not design this myself but found it on the internet some years ago and have used it successfully on many occasions. The Looking for Love Spread,  will expose areas where you may be unconsciously blocking a loving relationship from coming into your life.  It will offer both guidance on how to overcome and release these blocks, together with suggestions as to who might be a suitable partner and where you are most likely to meet him or her. To get the most out of this Reading it is wise to detach yourself or advise the Querant to detach them self as much as possible from the outcome.  Being honest with yourself and being open to other possibilities and potentials is important.

Looking For Love Spread

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Base Card – Gives background information.

Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner?

Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1?

Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner?

Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me?

Card 5 –  Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?

Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?

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  1. For card 4 I got the queen of rods reversed. I’m confused because I don’t believe the most suitable partner for me has all those negative qualities. How can I interpret this?

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    • Hi Allison,

      Reversed cards can also carry the message of ‘absolutely not like me’. In doing so the Reversed Queen of Wands/Rods could be acting as a warning to stay well away from anyone who mirrors her reversed characteristics, especially if you have had a tendency to do so in the past. Many of us are drawn to unsuitable partners time and time again only to discover down the road that they are the exact opposite of what we need. So beware of anyone resembling the Reversed Queen of Wands regardless of whatever other wonderful traits he or she displays at the time for it doesn’t augur well. Sometimes it is more important for us to determine what is the deal breaker, what we can’t or won’t compromise on. The Reversed Queen of Wands could represent the deal breaker in your case.

      I wonder if this makes any sense for you?

      Vivien

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  2. Hi Vivien, I draw the 9 of Wands as Where to find him, but what could it mean? It doesn’t look like a “where” card..

    What do you think?

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    • Hi Helen,

      Thank you for your enquiry. I suppose the same could be said about any number of cards that turn up in any position. When we ask a question of the tarot, we hope for very specific responses and cards to fit their positional meaning. If you have drawn the three of cups in Where to Find him you would naturally think of meeting him at a social event (party, wedding, celebration, concert), an introduction from a friend, through a friend or even part of your existing circle of friends. It makes sense and fits nicely in place. The six of cups could suggest he is not far from home, or perhaps someone from your childhood or past. The eight of wands might suggest on holidays or while travelling abroad. The ten of pentacles could suggest you find him in a corporate environment, or at a monied/high status event or gathering. Finding a Court Card in this position can throw you too. However, The Queen of Cups might suggest an artistic or nurturing environment, the King of Swords could suggest a legal or professional environment.

      You have drawn the Nine of Wands in this position and unfortunately it does not immediately offer a definite suggestion. When this happens we must look to what is going on in the card to determine where in your life or future it may be suggesting. In the Nine of Wands we see a worn out fatigued man who looks like he has a lot of demands on him, commitments and responsibilities. He doesn’t look like he has much time for socialising or any interest in a relationship. His attention seems to be fully focused on maintaining, defending or protecting everything he has worked hard towards, his job perhaps. He may be struggling to keep on top of things and is inevitably stressed. However, this guy is not a quitter and takes his responsibilities very seriously. He may have a very important job or is running a demanding and competitive business with little outside help. Therefore, you might encounter this man in a variety of circumstances and places. He is bound to make an impression on you regardless of whether he has the time to speak to you or not. Do you know anyone or have you encountered anyone who might line up with this scenario? The Nine of Wands can represent someone who is involved in security or the military. It is unlikely with the Nine of Wands that he will make the first move and he may be quite resistant or closed. He builds a fortress around himself, but it is penetrable so if you find this guy, you may have to give him time to come around. Therefore it is unlikely you will meet him in a typical social environment where all are dressed up and out to impress each other. It will probably be a work environment, one of high stress and quite demanding.

      I hope this has helped.

      Vivien

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  3. I drew The Moon in Position 4 for Most Suitable Partner. Does it mean that it’s not clear yet who it is? Or I’m confused? I can’t figure out how to read it. Also, for when I drew a court card – Queen of Pentacles? How do I read that for time? Love your site and all your descriptions. I think they are incredible.

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    • Hi India,

      Thank you for you lovely comment about my site. Well The Moon is very deep emotionally so maybe the most suitable partner for you is someone who is in touch with their emotions. The Moon also represents the Sun Sign, Cancer – emotive, creative, intuitive, caring, nurturing. The Moon can be moody though so you want that tempered down with more practical aspects. Pentacles in the Northern Hemisphere represent Winter. They are also the most patient of the suits so we can see this Queen is prepared to wait for what she wants. She has set high standards and won’t pair up with anyone less. When could also suggest, when you are out and about in Nature, walking, walking the dog, hiking, even down at the local garden center. Think of activities the Queen of Pentacles may be involved in when she might meet someone. She also could be at college or signing up to evening classes, a course, or club.

      I hope this helps.

      xxx Vivien

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  4. Hi Vivien
    I draw the nine of cup reversed for where to meet the suitable partner. does it mean to meet in a gathering? because the man in nine of cup appears to be alone sitting on his chair, and reversed makes it more confusing though. also I draw knight of sword for card 6. how to interpret time the the court cards appear? I also think your website is amazing and full of life wisdom for tarot learner!

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    • Hi Stella,

      The Nine of Cups Upright is a very social card and suggests parties, events, occasions, wining and dining, celebrations and gatherings of people. When Reversed, it might be pointing to ‘not in this sort of place’. It could mean you will meet your partner in a more everyday environment, not when you are dressed or ready for it. You could meet someone out walking the dog, waiting for the bus or standing in queue. It won’t be how you imagined perhaps. We always expect to meet someone when out socially but his card may be telling you, not this time. Perhaps, the man in question is not attending the social gathering but managing it instead. Could he be an event/banqueting manager, work in the hospitality industry. He may be at the party, but not one of the guests if you know what I mean. These are just a few random theories to play around with. As for the Knight of Swords and time, the Swords Suit is connected with the months of Autumn.Knights are also connected to taking action, and with this Knight being a Sword, he might be suggesting you will meet someone once you take action on it. As for the Swords element of Air this might involve you making your own introductions, going up to talk to the person you are interested in, engage them in conversation. The Knight could also suggest he will come into your life rather rapidly.

      Hope some of this is of help.

      Blessings,

      Vivien

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  5. Hi! I love your site- thank you for all of this. I refer to all the time and learning so much. I did the “Looking for love spread” and it feels really positive..How ever, I am having some difficulty interpreting. For instance how do I interpret the Lovers Card for “Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?”

    Card 1: 6 of Wands, Card 2: 8 of Wands, Card 3: 10 of Cups, Card 4: 9 of Pentacles Card 5: Lovers, Card 6: 4 of Wands, Base card : 6 of Cups ..Drew additional, 3 of Pentacles, 10 of Pentacles, 3 of Pentacles and the Hierophant.

    Many thanks,

    Emily

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    • Hi Emily,

      Just had a quick look at this regarding The Lovers and wonder if you are attending an occasion such as a wedding, engagement party or the likes? The Lovers as where may be a place where you will find couples, lovers, events revolving around couples. You have other cards in the reading which might point to a wedding, family gathering or large special social occasion. The Ten of Cups and Ten of Pentacles brings in family events with the Pentacles spending lavishly on it. The Hierophant officiates over wedding ceremonies. The 4, 6 of Wands, 10 of Cups, Lovers and Hierophant are all linked to engagements, weddings, christenings etc with The 10 of Cups, 4 of Wands, Six of Cups and 10 of Pentacles all suggesting important family or community occasions. The 4, 8 of Wands are also vacation cards, travelling to somewhere special. In the 4, 6 of Wands, 9 and 10 of Pentacles we see people dressing up, making a big effort with their appearance because they are going to be on view somewhere. No expense is spared. I am looking at these cards in general and not exactly as per the spread placements. The Four of Wands and Six of Cups show great stability and harmony. Fitting in and belonging. Three of Pentacles suggests laying down the groundwork, foundations etc. Putting great effort into something you consider of worth. Potential for growth. Someone talented and intelligent.

      Some wild Speculations below taken at face value. Great cards and positive.
      Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner? Six of Wands – Do others put you on a pedestal or believe you are out of their league? The 9 of Pentacles shows a well to do, well dressed, successful and self-sufficient woman. She is very independent and can look after herself. With the Six of Wands she could appear out of reach.

      Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1? 8 of Wands – Take action yourself. Make a move and be proactive. Go out in search of it. The 6 of Wands may see you sitting pretty waiting for admirers to come to you. The 8 sees you heading out. Travel also.

      Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner? 10 of Cups- Get to know the people around you and in your community. Get involved in something. Be open and friendly. Here we have family set ups and gatherings. Enrol the help of your family. Ask them to make introductions for you with suitable suitors. With the 6 of Cups and 10 of Pentacles I wonder if there is someone from home or close to home, or connected to your family?

      Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me? 9 of Pentacles – Someone who is successful and financially secure. A mature person who can appreciate a quality relationship without smothering.

      Card 5 – Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner? Lovers – At very specific couples events. Allow maybe family members of the 10 of Cups set you up on a date. They know you better than you know yourself. Go to events where you will meet like minded people who are also looking to meet like minded people. Dating sites, dating agencies. Weddings.

      Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner? 4 of Wands – At a wedding, party, family gathering, work do or convention, on vacation. During the summer months. When you are feeling stable and secure in yourself. When you are looking your best. When you are with people you know.

      Base Card – 6 Cups – Another family/family home card. In a familiar location with people you know. Where you can be yourself. Travelling home. Someone from your past or home town. Very loving and tender energy. Looking for a companion as well as a lover. Feeling blessed.

      Had five minutes to do this so sorry for any typos and hope you can work out where I am coming from.

      xxx Vivien

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  6. Hi Vivien,

    This is so helpful and amazing. THANK YOU!!!!!! I recently met a young man at a party through friends and finally not online and it felt great. I am much more in my element and more approachable in this fashion always. So far so good.. we will see. He’s a lot younger, but also truly wonderful and calls me his kindred spirit:)) I feel the same.

    Emily
    xoxoox

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  7. Hello Vivian, as for position 5 to where can I meet the partner, I drawn 2 of pentacles reversed. I got little clues on it but since it’s pentacles I think about workplace. Could you be kind and help me with alternative perspectives on this? Thank you!

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    • Hi V,

      The Pentacles are heavily related to the financial world and practical matters. Work would feature alright but can you let me know the other cards you got as sometimes the story reveals itself through the spread and not just one card. Does anything in the imagery trigger unconscious stirrings for you? The figure is juggling two pentacles (finances/accounts/two jobs/time/energy/resources/relationships/) while a boat rides the high seas (trade/ups and downs/stock market) The Two of Pentacles is also a card for the circulation of information/journalism/social media). If it makes little sense, add a couple of extra cards flush out the meaning. Tarot speaks in metaphors, symbols, analogies. You will rarely get a clear cut answer so you need to be flexible in how you view the cards. Take in the whole reading and ask how the Two of Pentacles fits in.

      Blessings,

      Vivien

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    • Ah just seeing the Two of Pentacles is Reversed. My oversight. The two of Pentacles reversed might be too busy and overwhelmed with life to meet anyone. Too much work is often a feature of this card. Do you do a lot of overtime, or work a second job? If you do not have much time for a social life, work may be the place you strike up a relationship.

      Vivien

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      • Thank you so much for your reply Vivien! Luckily I still keep the spread in my journal. Here are the other cards in the spread together with short notes on my first impression:

        Base card. Justice Rx: There’s something unjust happened (I’ve been hurt in last relationship)
        1. 8 Pentacles: not focusing on work, not learning anything new; not improving is my challenge
        2. Chariot: To overcome [8 pentacles] – need to be confident, make a move, go out more. Set goals and complete them, focus on my own path.
        3. Star: Best I could do right now is to believe, to wish; the angels is working hard trying to match a perfect partner for me perhaps.
        4. World: My perfect partner is literally “perfect”, someone that could make me go “you’re the world to me” 😀 a person who has lots of experience, emotionally matured, and probably has a thing for travel.

        And I’m still stuck on the Where and When

        5. 2 Pentacles Rx: (I mostly stay at home if I don’t have classes, maybe this is why I’m yet to meet the person, I literally don’t meet anyone new at all) Oh and I’m using Steampunk Tarot, The girl figure is riding a bike (pentacles are the wheels) on a sea, in the storm. Significant feature pops right out: trying to balance on the things in order to move forward, even though the condition is harsh.
        6. 5 Swords: I got a feeling this card telling me this isn’t a good time to meet the person, too much negativity in the vibe.

        Basically the whole spread is telling me to focus on my study first (I’m in 4th year of college now), when the time is right or when I have a job, the person will appear.

        What do you think?

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      • Hi V,

        You have done well with interpreting your spread. I agree, this is more about you, rather than who you might meet. Forging ahead, focusing on your studies, putting your best effort into it, becoming your own person, developing your talents and skills and feeling at one in your own world is the focus at present. Just because we draw cards for a particular issue, does not mean the cards will cooperate, especially if what we are asking is not in our best interest. This spread seems to be telling you to leave well alone with relationships at present and concentrate on on your own personal development, career advancement and progression. The cards tell me you are a very ambitious person with plans of going somewhere with your life and taking your place in the world. Your previous relationship, the one where you were treated unjustly, is muddying the waters and is sapping the much-needed energy you have for your own personal work. It hangs over you and with the Five of Swords I agree there is still too much negativity connected to relationships for it to be a good time to meet anyone. Not only do you need to knuckle down to work, especially as you are in 4th year college, you also need to spend time in healing yourself in the Star, so that you will be able to enter any future relationships in a stable balanced manner. You do not want to take baggage with you.

        This scenario frequently turns up in readings for people who are looking or hoping for a relationship at a time when it might not be in their interest to do so. Their lives are often complicated or busy yet they would like to meet someone. Many are still dealing with the fallout of a previous relationship. Pointing this out to the querant is not always well received, but you seem to be very practical and honest about it all. You can see both sides of the reading. One which tells you of the nature of the person who would suit you, as in the World, while also understanding where your priorities should lie at present. The Star and World are very similar cards and convey a strong sense of self-worth, something that may have taken a battering in your previous relationship. Therefore it is essential you find these things in yourself first, before expecting to find them in another. The World also suggests you are looking for someone who is very successful in life, has climbed high in career and who supports and cheers you in yours. This person wants you to shine and be a great success, someone who loves you for who you are (star) and not try to mold you into their version of perfection. To attract someone like that, you most certainly have to feel that way about yourself. At present, you are the most important star in the constellation and all must defer to you where priority is concerned. Follow your own star right now and the World/Universe will do its thing for you in the long run. Get down to work and try to let go of the negativity you hold about the unjust treatment in your previous relationship. When you can no longer recall, or have interest in feeling angry or upset about what happened, you will know you are ready to look towards a new relationship. The Chariot tells you to keep moving, don’t loose momentum, regardless of how tough it might feel at times. You have set goals for yourself, and you should let nothing stand in the way of moving towards them.

        The Reversed Two of Pentacles’ advice still stands. You are too busy in your own life, fulfilling your goals and ambition to give much attention to meeting someone. All the effort of a new relationship could distract you. All in good time. There is however, nothing wrong in meeting people on a social basis as too much work, as in the Eight of Pentacles, will wear you down and make you dull. That girl on the bike peddling furiously on the sea in a storm has enough to contend with staying afloat on her own. Should she be carrying a passenger on the back, or on the handlebars, it is likely she would sink rapidly, her destination never arrived at. Perhaps she would stand a better chance once the seas have calmed and it not all such a struggle.

        Blessings,

        Vivien

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