The Lovers (VI) Upright

(Card Descriptions Based On Original Rider-Waite Colors – Still Under US Games Inc. Copyright)



(To Follow)

A man and woman stand in what appears to be a garden, possibly the Garden of Eden. Behind each is a tree. The Tree of Knowledge behind the woman and The Tree of Life  behind the man. Above, an Angel looks down on them as if giving a blessing.  A cloud representing spirit symbolically joins the man and woman.

The man seems to be unaware of the Angel as he stares at the woman while the woman looks up to the Angel. This again represents the masculine and feminine, opposites, duality and conscious/subconscious aspects at play once again. The man looks outwardly for inspiration in the physical sense while the woman goes within to connect with spirit for fulfillment in her life. For perfect balance both of these qualities or approaches are necessary. The two combined are more powerful than when alone. The man instructs woman on the ways of the world through physical and direct experience while the woman helps man understand that he has a spiritual purpose to fulfill, that he is first and foremost spirit learning to live in the physical. The Lovers is an accumulation of the influence of the emotional and practical guidance of both the Empress and Emperor along with the  spiritual and moral instruction of The Heirophant being applied to our relationships in life.  The Fool is now expected to take his place in the world according to the tradition of all those who have gone before.  He will be watched carefully to ensure he behaves accordingly.  In a similar manner you will be too.

The Lovers are depicted as young adults and hence represent the onset of adolescence and the moving away from directing their sole love and attention from their parents to another . The couple depicted in The Lovers have become aware of each other’s presence and are now realise what it is to feel attracted to another.  They  are experiencing the magic of falling in love.

The Lovers is also a card for sexual development and sexual attraction. As a result relationships are highlighted by this card and often decisions about relationships. The relationship in question does not necessarily need to be of a romantic or sexual nature. This card deals with any relationship  that is considered important.  It is also a card for questioning the relationship you have with yourself. Learning to love yourself before you can love another.  True fulfillment comes at first from within as depicted by the woman turning to Spirit.

The Lovers along with the Knight of Swords is a sign for Gemini. Gemini is symbolically represented by the twins.  Because of the dual nature of Gemini, one of their challenges is to learn how to decide. Therefore this card may stand for decisions of any kind and not just relationships.  The Lovers teach us to take a look and examine both sides of the situation (represented by the man and woman)  so that the best decision for all may be arrived at.   It is a time to take your physical, emotional or spiritual needs into account when making a decision be it regarding love, buying a house or choosing a career.

Gemini being an Air Sign deals with the art of communication. Geminis are usually great talkers and are well able to communicate and express themselves. They are often depicted as having two phones; one for each ear.  The Lovers examine the level of and quality of communication within your relationships. For a relationship to remain healthy, active and forward moving is essential to keep a strong two-way flow of communication in operation.  As a couple The Lovers need to be able to express their individual needs, desires, feelings, likes and dislikes but also be able to listen to their partner’s needs in order to maintain a healthy balance and harmony within the relationship.

The Nudity of the man and woman symbolises their desire to be open and honest with each other. They feel safe enough with each other enabling them to show their true self and be accepted for who they are, warts and all.


Decisions about love and relationships in general apply unless a specific question has been asked. It can suggest a new relationship, generally at the onset of a relationship when one is first falling in love and consumed with romance and passion. You may be deciding whether to take your relationship to the next level by making more of a commitment to your partner or remain at the romantic stage. The Lovers Upright generally indicates that it is safe to move forward, safe to take it to the next stage. Both your needs have to be taken into consideration when making this decision otherwise it won’t work and their will be problems down the line.

The woman looking toward spirit may suggest that in a relationship one may prefer a more spiritual union rather than a physical one. Equally the man looking only toward woman may suggest that his concerns are only those of physical attraction with little interest of a deeper relationship.  Look to surrounding cards to for further hints of what sort of relationship you are reading about.  Again there is the need to be honest in your relationship and to clearly communicate your expectations lest one or you gets the wrong impression.

The Lovers Card asks questions of you regarding the nature of what it is that draws or attracts you to another.  Do you fully understand why you select the partners you do? You may gain important information about yourself and the nature of all relationships in your life if you take time to analyse or meditate on this.  If your relationships are generally successful then you have little to ponder over but if you have a pattern of getting hurt or taken advantage of then it may be you that is at fault and not the partners you choose.

The Lovers Card can also suggest that there is someone interested in you or admiring you from a distance that you are not aware of at present. In all these situations because The Lovers is a card of duality it is important to examine the flanking cards for more insight regarding the relevant situation and representation. Infatuation and romantic encounters are strongly highlighted in The Lovers.

 Sexual consummation of a relationship is strongly indicated in The Lovers as the couple in this card have moved on from the romantic stage of the  Two of Cups and become more intimate.   Due to The Lovers connection with Adam and Eve and the Garden of Eden temptations of the flesh may be an issue.

The Lovers is also a card for moving forward in life and its appearance in a reading will suggest that it is safe to move forward with whatever you are planning.

Back to Lesson 3


The Fool Upright  The Fool Reversed

The Magician Upright  The Magician Reversed

The High Priestess Upright   The High Priestess Reversed

The Empress Upright   The Empress Reversed

The Emperor Upright    The Emperor Reversed

The Heirophant Upright    The Heirophant Reversed

The Lovers Upright     The Lovers Reversed

The Chariot Upright   The Chariot Reversed

Strength Upright     Strength Reversed

The Hermit Upright   The Hermit Reversed

The Wheel of Fortune Upright   The Wheel of Fortune Reversed

Justice Upright   Justice Reversed

The Hanged Man Upright   The Hanged Man Reversed

Death Upright     Death Reversed

Temperence Upright     Temperence Reversed

The Devil Upright   The Devil Reversed

The Tower Upright     The Tower Reversed

The Star Upright     The Star Reversed

The Moon Upright    The Moon Reversed

The Sun Upright     The Sun Reversed

Judgement Upright      Judgement Reversed

The World Upright     The World Reversed

Lesson 1   Lesson 2



15 replies »

  1. Hello, Vivien. Remember the coworker who I was having the hots for? Well, I asked the cards what would happen if I pursued him romantically and The Lovers R. was the result. Then I asked what would happen if I did NOT pursue him romantically, and you know what popped up? The Lovers upright!!!! Don’t you think that’s strange? So, if I pretend I’m not interested, he’ll want me? Not sure if I’m cut out for this at my age. He’s a Sagittarius with a Gemini Moon, 49 and never been married. I can’t talk, I’m 42 and never tied the not, yet….


    • Well Lyle what if the Lovers Reversed suggests that it just won’t work out or that you are not compatible instead of him not being interested or not wanting you, and what if the Lovers Upright suggests you will be free to meet someone who is suitable for you if you do not put all your energy into pursuing him? Draw some extra cards to flush out the meaning but try to step back and listen to what those Lovers might be saying. Take the blinkers off and allow your peripheral intuition a look in. It widens your field of vision. Also the Lovers Upright can suggest very close friends with a strong bond. Maybe you would be better as best friends rather than romantic partners?




  2. I meant “knot”. Lol.. Ok, I did what you suggested and did a clarification card on The Lovers and received The Magician. I do hope I find someone suitable and it will manifest soon! BTW, the position I wanted has been filled. 😦 Thank you for helping me, Vivien.


    • Hi Lisa,

      Oh thank you so much for your lovely comment. I am working hard to complete the Minor Arcana, including Court Cards right now. Then I will move on to The Major with full focus. It all takes a lot of time to write and format. There is just me doing it all so can only achieve so much in a day, week etc. I am impatient to get to the Major but I have already jumped around too much and now need to fully complete certain sections before moving on any further. I hope you understand and hang on in there. x



  3. I often get confused how to interpret this card when it appears in my career readings as an outcome card. I suppose it could mean a job that brings harmony or one that I will enjoy.


    • Hi Nicoleh,

      As an astrologist, I know you love writing about this subject and no doubt have compiled loads of charts for people, many who seek advice on their love life or lack of one. You may have a talent for spotting where any disharmony exist in their various houses. You could do well in couples’ counselling for example, using astrology as a medium.

      The Lovers is all about choice, making the right one. When upright it indicates a wise choice based on consulting both head and heart in the matter. Where the lovers are concerned, you don’t want a career that caters to only one aspect of these requirements. You must be doing something that appeals to you both consciously and subconsciously. The lovers could suggest you need to seek a career that fulfills both sides, is mentally stimulating as well as emotionally fulfilling. You may feel at present that you swing between the two in your present career. The Lovers calls for integration of both your masculine and feminine side along with the increasing need for self-analysis in this area. You need to have a deep conversation with yourself and seek the truth within. Vocalise to yourself, your needs and wants where career is concerned and see how readily you can answer any questions raised, without filling in with excuses and explanations about why you can’t do this and that. This card could imply a fear of making the wrong choice where career is concerned. The Reversed aspect would point to making a poor choice, or being led down a path that is not in your best interest, being tempted by something that appears appealing on the outside and running with it before giving due thought.

      The bottom line is the Lovers demand harmony and its very presence probably suggests you lack it at present. You may be trying to do everything on your own for example, and could really do with a dig out, or collaboration with another to expand on your ambition. I wonder if you operate solely as an astrologist or do you align with others for your work? Do you conduct your astrology work from home, or are you part of a practice or center where others work too.

      Following the right path is very important to you at this stage of your life and you are concerned about making a wrong choice in this matter, regretting it down the line and wasting valuable time. Take note of which cards lie close to the Lovers when they appear for career readings as they may give an indication of the areas that would suit you best. If the Lovers is reversed, the cards close by could be suggesting potential poor choices or decisions. At best it may lead nowhere, or at worse, it could undo a lot of your previous good work. In the Lovers Reversed, there is a temptation to run down a path that is not in your best interest. It may be decorated with faerie glamour or even an old previously treaded path, that is presenting itself anew.

      It is a big decision to make, and The Lovers being a Major Arcana Card, suggests career decisions can have long lasting implications.




      • Thank you, Vivien! I wasn’t expecting such a lengthy and wonderful response!

        I work solo as an astrologer from my apartment. I’m in the process of editing my work and submitting some of my essays to various astrological magazines. I could certainly use the extra income and exposure.

        I have been struggling with a lot in terms of my career path. In the fall Jupiter will enter my financial house so hopefully my business and resources will be expanding.

        Thank you for your patience and generosity, Vivien. By the way? What is your sign? lol

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      • Hi Nicoleh,

        Absolutely no problem girl! I am glad to hear you are submitting work as I feel the Lovers sees the need for you to join others. I know from experience how tough it is doing it all. For example, the next few days will be spent catching up on correspondence as I have had my head down in writing for some time now. Then it is back to writing and so on. I operate from home too and do everything on my own. I do like to work solo though. However, if I could delegate some of the work to leave me free to write it would be great. I think your work will go down really well and the magazines would be delighted to have you on board. It should draw more customers, yet I know how much time it takes for you to compile each chart. I will be emailing you tomorrow about a separate issue.

        Take care and hope the back is improving. Oh by the way, I am the bull, Taurus. An April one!




  4. I did a reading about my ex boyfriend. We haven’t been in contact for months. In the “What he wants from me” I got the lovers. I don’t know how to interpret this. Could it be reconcilliation?

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    • Hi Anna,

      I think the answer may lie in what issues brought about the end of your relationship. Your ex may want to communicate with you to clear the air or deal with unfinished conversations. Maybe things were said that shouldn’t have been or things were left unsaid. The presence of the lovers could imply he is thinking about you at present and with it being upright, recalls your relationship in a positive light. I think he may be drawn to you or there is a connection that has not been severed for one reason or another. You are still connected to him, hence the reading about him, so there may be unfinished business. It all depends on your intention when drawing cards and how badly you want a certain outcome.If you desperately want a reconciliation, the lovers can appear to support this. You haven’t been in contact for months. If you seek a reconciliation, then reach out as this is a two way flow. The Lovers could suggest a decision is being made at present pertaining to a relationship. I am not sure if this is of any relevance to your situation. Try drawing a card for each side of the lovers for further information.




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