Looking For Love Spread – Interpretation
Base Card – 5 of Swords Rx
Base Card – Gives background information.
Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner?
Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1?
Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner?
Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me?
Card 5 – Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?
Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?
Reader – Your Base Card shows me that you have been through a very difficult time of late. A lot of stresses in the past but you are coming out of it. I do think that it will be a slow progress as I feel you have been cut to the very core and hurt badly. I feel you may possibly be mourning some form of loss and even recovering from injury of some sort. Injury could be on any level; physical, emotional or psychological. This may be you or someone close to you, but I do sense that others have been involved. I feel a lot of aggression and conflict here but I may be wrong as this Card holds other meanings. However, I am zooming in on this area. If you do not relate to this or find it hard to understand, I could pull an extra couple of Cards to gain further insight.
Querant – No, it’s okay, I think I know what it refers to and yes, things haven’t been great. I lost my sister tragically but I do not really wish to speak about it at the moment. I find it too difficult. I suppose, I’m not yet ready to deal with it.
Reader – Okay, I understand completely and I am very sorry to hear that news. However, because this Card is turning up it does bring its energy and influence into the issues or area we are seeking guidance on even if you think it is a separate issue. You seek a deep meaningful Relationship so the very presence of this Card implies that it affecting or influencing your ability to draw love to yourself. For the moment let us move on. Card 1 is showing me here the reasons behind your lack of success or ability to find your perfect partner at. The Three of Pentacles coming in here would suggest that at present and for some time you have been very diligent and engrossed in building a career for yourself or perhaps study. I feel you may have been and still are putting all your efforts into a long-term goal, keeping your head down and working very hard. I don’t believe that you really have much free time to devote to socialising or romance even though you are here asking in this area. I get a sense that your priorities lie with your work or study at present even though on the surface you do desire romance. I feel you may also be keeping yourself as busy as you can with work or study to distract you from your grief. Does this make any sense to you?
Querant – Well, if I am honest I suppose that is true. I am working very hard at setting up my own business at the moment. I am also studying for exams in four subjects. I certainly do have a long-term goal and am exhaustively working towards it. I do realise that I am not really putting myself out there, because I am putting my head in books instead. Since I lost my sister I haven’t let up. In fact I think I am working so hard that I don’t give myself time to think. I was kind of hoping that love would come knocking at my door.
Reader – Well, that Card does make sense then. Let us look at Card 2 and see how you can deal with this. The Two of wands Reversed indicates in this situation that you long for intimacy, long for a change, long for something to take you out of the dreariness of your life and also your feelings. You desire change on a deep level but at present are too apathetic and lethargic in yourself to make the necessary changes. I sense a deep loneliness and feelings of isolation. Your study and work helps distract you by keeping you operating on automatic and gives you a perfect excuse for not making any changes at present.
You may be expecting too much too soon under the circumstances. Your world indeed has appeared to close in on you and there is a sense of entrapment here. You may feel a slave to all you have created including your ambitions and study. You desire change and freedom yet fear of the unknown and fear of change paralyses you to the extent that you are finding it impossible to make any decision for the best at present so you just keep doing what you are doing.
There is a sense that you feel like running away, just upping and going but fear holds you back. You may feel that a change of scenery or location will drive all the pain away, a fresh start in a way. Where you possibly thinking of moving far away before you lost your sister? Seeking a new life? I think your loss has somehow sapped you of your normal sense of adventure and excitement. I think at present that you are not strong enough in yourself to make any rash decisions or any monumental changes in your life. Now is not the time to go. You must face up to your life and come to terms with your losses otherwise you may make a decision that you will regret in time to come. Your grief will follow you wherever you go, so it is best to deal with it on familiar territory first before setting off on any voyages. Your work and study are probably holding you together and giving you a reason to get out of bed every day but they cannot be used as crutches indefinitely.
Querant – Well, you have it in a nutshell there. I had been planning to take a year out to travel around the world with a few friends. I knew my sister was having problems but didn’t realise how serious they were. I had saved like crazy for the last five years and the plan was to travel and work our way around the world before returning home to gain the necessary qualifications in order to set up my business. Two weeks before I was due to go, my sister died and of course under the circumstances my world fell apart and so did my plans for travel. My friends went on without me. Indeed my world has closed in on me as all I see are the four walls of my house, my books and laptop. My friends keep in touch on Facebook and Skype. They are expecting me to join them when I finish my exams, but I can’t. I just can’t. I can’t imagine leaving my home right now. This is where my memories are and this is where I feel safe. I used to be such an impulsive and spontaneous person. I was always up for an adventure, but I have changed and I am filled with fear and dread of anything new or different. That is why; I suppose I just keep on working so hard. However, part of me feels that I just want to run away and forget everything, but deep down I know that it won’t solve anything. I know I would ruin it for my friends if I was to join them right now as they would be worried about me constantly. The cards are right, I need to overcome all my insecurities and deal with my grief before I can rejoin normal life again.
Reader – You are a very wise and brave girl. I know you are looking for love but first you have to deal with and overcome your grief otherwise you will bring it into a new relationship and a new relationship may not be strong enough to deal with this. At present you are not yourself from what you tell me and there is a chance that you may go for a partner for all the wrong reasons only to find down the road that he is not the right person for you.
Querant – Yes, I think I knew that before I came here. I suppose I am trying to put a Band-Aid on my heart at present. I would probably be a mess in a relationship if my head is anything to go by.
Reader – Let us move on and look at what positive steps you could take to overcome or deal with the issues exposed in Card 2. In Card 3 we have the Four of Swords and it is telling me that you really need to take things easy. You are working very hard but you are not giving the essential time to deal with all the stress in your life. A word of caution comes with this card. If you don’t take time out now to gather your thoughts and physically rest you run the risk of having a breakdown of some sort, be it physical or nervous. Now is not the time to try to get out there and hit the dating game. You are mentally and emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed with life at present and all that has happened. Trying to do this will only bring further problems upon you as new relationships can be initially quite stressful and demanding. In fact I would suggest you withdraw from any activities that are too demanding on you in order to stabilise and recuperate.
Some time spent pursuing activities such as meditation, relaxation classes, counselling and even bereavement counselling will be of enormous benefit to you and will give you the serenity and release you need at present. It will also give you the strength to return to the normal world when the time is right. By all means continue with your studies and business plans but now is not the right time to pursue a hectic social life or seek a deep and meaningful relationship. If not, you run the risk of bringing a lot of emotional baggage into any relationship you may get involved in.
Querant – It makes sense I suppose. I am probably idealising a perfect world for myself and a perfect partner where we all live happily ever after. I just want to feel happy. Do you think I will ever feel carefree again?
Reader – Of course but you are on a journey at the moment that cannot be rushed. Your desires are perfectly normal especially after what you have had to deal with. You just want to wave a magic wand and conjure up utopia, a place where you don’t have to worry and have someone there for you who will be eager to wipe away your pain.
Querant – True, oh how true. I suppose I might as well dream here as in bed. In relation to counselling I saw a notice in my local newspaper advertising grief counselling. It is one-to-one for a while and then you have the option of joining on a group basis. It is funny, I normally hate all that sort of stuff but I found myself taking down the number the other day before I threw out the paper. It is still sitting at home on the kitchen table. Maybe I should try it out and see if it is of any help? I suppose it once at least. I feel very isolated and unable to communicate my feelings with normal people at present. Ha, I am listening to myself now and here was me thinking I would be able to communicate with a new partner!
Reader – Excellent, I really think it will be worth a try. At least once as you say. I think we are really getting to the heart of the matter here and although painful, quite necessary under the circumstances. Let us now look at who Mr. Right could be.
Card 4 brings us the Ace of Cups and this is a lovely card for it heralds a new beginning, a new sense of happiness in your life but as it is a description of the right person for you, I would suggest that the perfect partner for you is someone who is very balanced and at peace with himself. This person is a joy to be around, considerate of your feelings, happy within himself and loves from the heart. This man will definitely be a true romantic and will adore you. He glows with an inner contentment. He gives love unconditionally and has enough to go around without depleting his own source. He will be very spiritual in himself. Gentle and quiet in nature he will instil confidence and self-esteem in you. He may very well be quite creative or even artistic. You will know this person as soon as you see him.
Normally in a Reading we would look for a Court Card to represent a person but that does not always happen. Perhaps it is for the best, for if you know too much, as in age or sun sign you may block the potential to meet the right man by unconsciously holding certain descriptive criteria. It is best to let it evolve naturally. The Ace of Cups is a very healthy Card and I feel that this man has had a wonderful loving upbringing and is surrounded by a strong supportive family who will be happy to welcome you into the fold.
This man may not be the normal type you go for but then again when you are ready to return to the world and put yourself back out there, you too will have changed. You will have a different outlook on life, have different priorities and needs. This man will meet them all and be very supportive of you. This relationship would be truly blessed. He will immediately put you at ease and extremely comfortable in his company. Romantic dinners in intimate restaurants or at home by the fireside, weekends away by the sea tucked up in a little old cottage or being whisked away to a magnificent castle would be his idea of a good time. He will restore your faith in life. He will herald the beginning of a very emotionally fulfilling time for you.
Querant – I can almost picture him. It is funny because normally I like to travel a lot and am always looking for a bit of excitement or adventure. I usually go for guys who share that same view. However, whereas I seek commitment and stability in the midst of all the excitement, the men I have been involved with always seem to get restless and are eager to move on after a year max. This always leaves me depressed and insecure in myself. Maybe I have been barking up the wrong tree all this time.
Reader – You see you are already beginning to explore other possibilities. That is good. The Ace of Cups man will be happy to settle down and will even be eager to start a family. If that is what you want, it is a very positive sign indeed.
So let us move on to where you are most likely to meet this man of your dreams in Position 5. The 3 of Cups sees you rejoining the social scene and getting out and about. There is celebration here and a strong sense of rewards for hard work done. I feel this return to mainstream life will coincide with the completion of your studies and the successful launch of your business. I see family and friends coming together as well and even a reunion with your friends who are overseas at present. Everyone is happy for you and toasting your return to life. I see many occasions for getting out and about and lots of invitations flooding in. There may indeed be new circles of friends entering your life and these could be people you met as a result of joining a counselling group or meditation classes. I do believe that you will first encounter this man on one of these occasions.
Querant – Well I better start getting to bed early in preparation for all the party time ahead. Mind you, the thoughts of it right now leave me exhausted. I would be a real ‘party pooper’ at present. The real life and soul of the party? I think not!
Reader – And that brings me nicely to the final card, Card 6 which deals with when you are most likely to meet this man. The Two of Cups coming in here again gives me three Cups in a row so far and is a far cry from the earlier cards. The Two of Cups brings balance, harmony and equality in a relationship. It brings a genuine offer of love and commitment. The Two demands balance and equilibrium and because it is a Cups Card then this Two suggests that when you have arrived at a state of inner balance and harmony within yourself, you will be in the right position to meet your partner eye to eye and on equal footing. Only then will you have something of worth to offer and also equally be in a position to receive all that your partner has to offer in return. When you have arrived at a stage when you know that you seek union not just to make you feel better or to lean on someone, but rather to enhance your life and to share the joy and love that is within you, then you will know that the time is right.
I believe the bond you had with your sister was very strong and her death left you feeling as though you had lost half of your soul. The Two of Cups suggests that although no one will ever be able to take her place, you will have the chance to develop a very close and intimate relationship with someone else.
Cups also represent the summer, a time of joy and abundance. The card being a Two may represent the second day, week or month of summer so be very observant around this time and open to chance encounters.
There is a wonderful feeling about this Card. I do believe that this man is out there right now and at present making his own journey in life, yet slowly but surely, the distance between you narrows by the day. You are both making your way towards the same destination but at this point in time are not yet aware of each other. The Universe is conspiring to arrange that first encounter and it will feel just perfect when it happens.
If you look diagonally across the Card Spread in front of you, you can see how the imbalance of the Two of Wands Reversed is stabilised in the Two of Cups. The Three of Pentacles gives you the drive and determination to overcome all the bad times but it is the time spent in The Four of Swords that acts as the gateway or bridge to inner happiness, release and Freedom. It is the stabilising force that is necessary to access all that the Cups have to offer. It is very important to reflect on this Card if you wish to move forward in your life and be happy. Many try to bypass this stage of recuperation, adjustment and introspection. They keep their head down and just hope for the best. They usually manage to keep going but as soon as any of their stress triggers are pressed, they regress into their damaged self and behave accordingly.
Querant – I understand perfectly what you are saying. To think I was frightened to come for this Reading and was going to cancel it yesterday. I am so relieved I didn’t. Thank you so much. Hearing the truth is not always nice but I can see now that I was looking for a partner to make me feel better about myself and to take away the loneliness and deep loss I feel. I know now what I have to do and for the moment I will not focus too much in the area of relationships except that of the one I have with myself. I will continue with my plans and study as that keeps me grounded and gives me a reason for getting up each day. I will also have to come to terms with the fact that I may need some outside help to deal with my feelings at the moment. The idea of meditation or yoga appeals to me so I will look into that. I haven’t been minding what I eat for the last while so I think a change in diet might be on the cards too. Some healthy and nutritional eating for a change I am sure would help. I suppose there is no point asking how long this is going to take as I am the only one who can answer that question. Thank you very much for helping me focus and see a light at the end of the tunnel.
I now have something lovely to think about when I go to bed at night and I am suddenly looking forward to the future and all that it may bring.